The Wait

Isaiah 40:31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

There is beauty in the waiting process

Your single season is where you get to really discover who God has called you to be. Granted, on the inside it’s ugly. You have to deal with parts of you that you’ve been hiding and pushing to the side. You don’t have the opportunity to immerse yourself in other people’s lives and problems. Maybe that’s why some people prefer to be in problematic situations because they can focus on external problems instead of what’s going on internally.

Maybe that’s why some people prefer to be in problematic situations because they can focus on external problems instead of what’s going on internally.

One thing that I’ve learned about this time I’m spending alone is that God will literally reveal things to you, about you, that you don’t want people to know and He gives you the chance to get it right while it’s just you and Him. What the enemy tries to do is tell you that God forgot about you. That since you’re alone, you’re lonely. But that’s just God giving you a chance to get it right. Don’t rush the process.

Stay Strong

Yes times will come where you want to give in and give up. You want to book that fight to see homie that’s been in your DM’s. You want to keep messing with that guy that you KNOW is bad for you and your credit score. It’s not easy! I know that first hand. But I’d rather wait on something that is God-sent instead of man-sent. I’ve seen too many man-sent relationships end up in flames. I’ve seen too many men and women with people that they chose out of loneliness instead of a call from God and they end up so heart broken and turned off towards love.

Be Intentional

That’s why it’s important to be intentional in our single season and know ourselves and our weaknesses because the enemy does. And if we don’t recognize them and get a hold of them, he’ll use them against us. He’ll convince us that we're lonely. He’ll convince us that we're not worthy of love & that we should take whatever we can get our hands on even though the red flags are as clear as day.

...it’s important to be intentional in our single season and know ourselves and your weaknesses because the enemy does

So please, be intentional in your single season. There’s a season for everything, especially the time God has called you to be alone. He wants you to learn about Him, develop your relationship with Him, grow in Him, find yourself in Him.

Get Ready

My mind keeps going back to a sermon that I heard in August 2019 titled “First Stone”. It was the story of David and Goliath but from the perspective of the stones & David before he met with Goliath. Both the stones and David were in a waiting period. David had already been anointed by Samuel to be king but he didn't step up to the throne that same day. During David’s time alone, before he had the responsibility of the kingdom of Israel, he spent time with God. The Bible says he had a heart for God and what I really appreciate is his obedience to the leaders placed in his life. Without his obedience, he wouldn’t have been in the right place at the right time to do God’s work.

side note: a lot of people don’t see marriages as God’s work but that in itself is an entire ministry. That's a topic for a different time

David had practice to take down Goliath when he was alone. He had experience protecting and leading sheep (the people of God) from lions and bears. He didn’t have it easy. Just like the stones he chose to kill Goliath. They were smooth stones and they have to go through a lot to be smooth (abrasion). But in the end, when they’re called to do what they’re supposed to do they’re ready.

Heart Posture

Specifically those waiting on a spouse:

Please please please! Take this time alone seriously. Take advantage of it. This is the only time that you’ll be just you without having someone attached to you. There’s no going back from that. Make sure you are happy with yourself. Make sure that you’re at peace with yourself. Make sure you have the heart and the shoulders to help someone carry their burdens and that you know how to carry it well. Make sure you were graced for it.

But most importantly, make sure you’re in the right place to hear God and see Him move in your life. Without that, you’ll be completely and utterly lost. A strong connection with God is probably the most important part of living a successful single life. It's still a work in progress for me but I'm learning to appreciate it. I’m learning to depend on God. I’m learning how to go to Him instead of man when I’m feeling lonely. I’m learning how to rely on Him to fix my broken heart because I know He can. I’ve seen Him repair parts of me that I thought were damaged for good. I’m grateful for the time alone I have with Him because I know that when He sends me my life partner it’ll be a little more difficult but I know that when times get hard, I can go to the one that was with me through the darkest times.